Wednesday, November 12, 2014

We're a real band (again)

Tomorrow morning James and I are going to be on a Radio Valencia show called Conan Neutron's Protonic Reversal from 8 to 10 a.m. (that's 11 a.m. to 1 p.m. for you Midwesterners). You can find a place to stream or listen to the recording here. We've been in Oakland for three months at this point. Things are better than ever and the band is becoming the real, functioning project that we've been building towards.

Sunday, October 19, 2014

There's more than corn in California

A few things happened on our end in Oakland this past weekend: we welcomed James' cat Lola into our apartment and put two songs from our new project LOVE MOON into the cosmos via our profile. It's not an enormous change from the ordinary but there's a real shift in reality when the thing that you've been working on and talking about for so long makes the jump from concept to tangible product.

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

An open letter to my friend Kate

Dear Kate,

Most times I don't believe the things that I tell you over the phone. Asking you to stay strong and telling you that you're doing your best isn't helpful to a person under the dark weight of the situation you've found yourself in. These are weak little statements that don't encourage a positive mentality but instead distract you from the very real problems you're facing daily. I cannot imagine the hardships you face with a mother in chemo and a grandmother passing away before your eyes. I'm going to write my thoughts down so that I can read them again before shuffling them back at you when you need someone to talk to.

Saturday, September 20, 2014


I've been sleeping in my own bed. After two months of touring and living on a floor, I have my own bedroom and bed. It's a queen size bed from IKEA, the cheapest possible combination of mattress, slats and bed frame possible. In three years I haven't had a bed larger than a twin and I'm a tall, big guy who can't sleep folded up.

Saturday, September 6, 2014

Hella California Hella

My friend Kate asked what my favorite thing to do in Oakland was so far the other night as I walked her home from the bar using FaceTime. I'd already told her about the grapefruit juice and tequila palomas at Cafe Van Kleef and lake full of dead bodies in the center of downtown, but I couldn't pinpoint a specific thing that I could call my favorite. I realized that there are a lot of smaller things about California making me happier for moving here everyday.

Monday, September 1, 2014

Starting Something New (Make A Thing)

After this past Summer tour and moving adventure Male Bondage was left scattered along the western coast of the U.S. Adam, our main vocalist and guitarist, moved with his twin brother Alex (former MB bassist) to Eugene, Oregon, while we (James, Charlie and I) moved to Oakland, California. This was semi-planned but it makes our ability to operate as a band tough.

Sunday, August 31, 2014

I Slept Through An Earthquake (I'm Really Tired)

At 3:20 a.m. on Sunday, August 24, in The Bay Area's Napa Valley, about 50 miles north of where I'm living in Oakland, a 6.0 magnitude earthquake, the biggest in California since the 1989 Loma Prieta 6.9 quake, shook the region. Hundreds were injured and a few were killed. Buildings and highways, mostly in Napa Valley, sustained heavy damage. The governor of California, Jerry Brown, declared The Bay a disaster area.

I slept through the entire thing under a floor-to-ceiling shelf filled with VHS tapes that could have easily toppled over and crushed me.

Friday, August 1, 2014

The Inability to Accurately Convey Experiences

At one point on this tour/moving adventure, Francisco was riding in the passenger seat of my 2004 Chevy Malibu as we drove from Tucson, AZ, to Los Angeles, CA. He had his phone pressed to the glass of the passenger side door to take a picture our surroundings - barren desert punctuated by masses of jagged rock and mountains. He gave up because what he was seeing in first person wouldn't transfer from his iPhone to the internet to someone back home. The only thing you can do to engage in the beauty of nature and adventure is experience it firsthand.

Thursday, July 31, 2014

Moving Is Easy Until You Have To Stop

One of the most liberating parts of being on tour with your band is the constant flow of movement from one city to another. You never fully digest a city's experience because in less than twelve hours after you've played a show, you need to leave. Sometimes driving straight through the night and the entire next day. This is the constant motion that creates the energy for a band to stay on tour.

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Drink All of the Weird Coffees (The Van is Broken)

Three and a half inches of steel kept the front passenger side tire of Charlie’s Ford E-150 from falling off as we drove from Fort Worth to Austin. Because of an overly tightened bearing the rotor, spindle and a few other technical car terms that I’m not prepared to understand are completely shot. This is after a shop in Fort Worth had fixed our brake problem and told us that we were fine to drive, when clearly we were not. Along with considering ourselves lucky to be alive, we’re stuck in Austin until at least Friday for the parts that we need to be delivered.

Friday, July 11, 2014

My Gang Tattoo is Gone (We're Moving to Oakland)

Outside of my parent's home in Carmel is a 2004 grey four-door sedan that will carry myself, one passenger and the collective belongings of Male Bondage to Oakland, California, behind a van packed with gear and even more things. The back seat of my car is inaccessible. The trunk is crammed full and because of a broken latch it can't be opened until we're there. On top, weighing deep into the roof of my Malibu, is a turtle shell car top carrier filled with still more things.